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December 2014: “Embrace Conflict as Your Teacher.”
All relationships at one time or another will experience conflict, that’s a fact. When this happens, most of us get so entrenched in the details of the conflict that we lose sight of the meta view, or 20,000 foot level perspective. One way to enlarge our perspective is to look to observe mother nature. If we look at the history of our planet, there have been several phases where the earth invited conflict, destroying existing life in order for new life to spring into existence. In the case of the universe, destruction and creation go hand in hand. How might we be different in the midst of our human conflicts if we sense that this same creative process is happening through us?
This month’s practice invites you to rise above the details to look at the growth that’s happening as a result of the conflict. What new competencies is this conflict birthing in you and your partner that are necessary for you both to evolve and grow? Instead of getting caught up into victim-oriented stories, become a mindful creator, focusing instead on the gifts of this conflict. Pay attention to the many ways that your conflict is your teacher and become a student of it. Notice how shifting your perspective around conflict changes how you ‘be’ in it and changes your partner as well.
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