« March 2015: “Master the Art of Polite Disagreement” | Main | Benefits Coverage for Weight Loss Programs »
April 2015: “Create Space for Your Partner to Thrive”
We’ve all done it. In an effort to be helpful, we over insert ourselves in situations with our partner and the outcome feels more like control than help. What’s going on here? If we stop and examine our desire to help, often we will find an underlining concern present about how our partner is/isn’t handling the situation. Once we’ve identified this, we should ask ourselves the following questions: “What will the outcome be if I intervene and voice this concern, both for the situation and my partner?” and “What will the outcome be if I don’t intervene and let things play out, both for the situation and my partner?” There are benefits and consequences to every choice we make, and, in this case, there may be larger consequences on our relationship if we try to micromanage the situation. When we give our partners enough space to trust their instincts and make decisions, we create the conditions for them to learn and thrive.
In the next month, as you coordinate action with different partners, notice your desire to help and take a deeper look to identify any underlying concerns. Ask the above questions and determine whether or not you will intervene. If you choose to intervene, consider how you might do so in a way that preserves multiple perspectives and gives your partner enough room to learn and thrive. Notice how this practice shifts the dynamic between you and helps you both learn and thrive.
Posted on April 6, 2015 11:47 AM Permalink
Search
Recent Posts
- Benefits Coverage for Weight Loss Programs
- April 2015: “Create Space for Your Partner to Thrive”
- March 2015: “Master the Art of Polite Disagreement”
- February 2015: “Create Conscious Closures in Your Relationships”
- “Acknowledge Gifts Given, Gifts Received, and Next Steps in Co-creating Your Relationship”
- December 2014: “Embrace Conflict as Your Teacher.”
- November 2014: “Let Go of a Negative Behavior Pattern for the Sake of Your Partner.”
- Expanded Healthy Snack Vending Program
- October 2014: “Appreciate and Cultivate What You Already Have.”
- September 2014: “Communicate Authentically and Avoid Knee-Jerk Clichés”
Categories
Archives
- June 2015
- April 2015
- March 2015
- February 2015
- January 2015
- December 2014
- November 2014
- October 2014
- September 2014
- August 2014
- July 2014
- June 2014
- May 2014
- April 2014
- February 2014
- January 2014
- December 2013
- November 2013
- October 2013
- August 2013
- June 2013
- May 2013
- March 2013
- February 2013
- January 2013
- December 2012
- November 2012
- October 2012
- September 2012
- August 2012
- July 2012
- June 2012
- May 2012
- March 2012
- February 2012
- January 2012
- December 2011
- November 2011
- September 2011
- July 2011
- June 2011
- May 2011
- April 2011
- March 2011
- February 2011
- January 2011
- December 2010
- November 2010
- October 2010
- September 2010
- July 2010
- June 2010
- May 2010
- April 2010
- March 2010
- February 2010
- January 2010
- December 2009
- November 2009
- October 2009
- September 2009
- August 2009
- July 2009
- May 2009
- April 2009
- March 2009
- February 2009
